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January 28, 2013

Are you choosing happiness over love, or vice versa?

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A new study reveals that people don’t really want to be happy all the time. In fact, when kept under observation, participants revealed that their desire was more than just happiness. They were ready to forsake happiness for respect, motivation and self-compassion. But, it isn’t always advisable to choose happiness and leisure over care, commitment, responsibility and self-respect.

Psychologist asked nearly 400 people, from age 18 to 78, whether they preferred their lives to be happy or meaningful, and found out that most people choose meaning in their lives over happiness.

It has been observed that people who are happy are quite contended with their lives and gradually start lacking ambition and zest for life, which eventually leads to guilt and depression.

According to the authors of Journal of Positive Psychology, "Happiness without meaning characterizes a relatively shallow, self-absorbed or even selfish life, in which things go well, needs and desire are easily satisfied, and difficult or taxing entanglements are avoided,"

But there could be a solution to this.

1. Stop searching for happiness from the standpoint of a taker. Don’t demand happiness without making any effort in pursuit of happiness.

2. Start giving happiness instead. Donate money, clothes, food, love your family, work hard to cherish their lives, respect people, learn new things on day to day basis, feed your brain with positive insights and actions.

3. Lead a meaningful life. Even a meaningful life feels happy and since you’re not asking for favors anymore, and only focusing on giving them, you’ll have, what we can call, a never ending joy for living.

4. Choose love over happiness. Because, happiness is the slave of temperament of desire. Make sacrifices that get you noticed. Care for people with your goodness. Add meaning to your life and your reason to your happiness, because that alone will be an everlasting experience of happiness.

There are two types of people, those who take happiness and the ones who gift happiness. If you had only one choice, who would you become? Photo by JunJ via Flickr